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Celebrate Calm~ Calming Homes & Classrooms |
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If you have ever yelled, lost your cool, threatened to sell your your child to a band of traveling gypsies, then Celebrate Clam is a must listen/read for you...
Understanding how to effectively communicate with a child is up there with explaining how gravity works or how seedless grapes grow: not impossible, but not an easy thing to tackle.
Kirk Martin’s Celebrate Calm techniques have helped to defuse, or at minimum, delay- the explosion that sometimes boils in our home. We aren’t exceptional in any way- we’re normal parents with a wonderful kid. Sometimes he’s obedient, sometimes he’s not. Sometimes we’re patient, sometimes we’re not. Sometimes we consider flogging as a reasonable form of discipline… you get the picture.
Most of us aren’t born with conflict resolution degrees, and end up deteriorating into out of control, angry grownups (loosely defined!) when faced with a- umm- strong willed, independent-thinking child ( I think I cleaned that up nicely compared to what I was thinking!) Celebrate Calm stacks the odds in your favor by offering practical, doable methods that really do create a controlled and healthy atmosphere in the home. It’s amazing how much control we gain by giving up control to our children- whooda thunk it?
Simple practices, like The Man sitting down while he is disciplining The Boy instead of towering over him. It makes the Boy less apprehensive about his dad’s body language and more receptive to what he’s being told. It takes practice, but it works. For me, I learned how not to “control” the environment, and let The Boy and The Man learn how to communicate with each other without any prior coaching or “rules of engagement” on my part. While it’s painful now and then- they are understanding each other better and working through the fact that they are- ohhh, EXACTLY ALIKE.
And- The Boy. He has learned that he gets to make a Choice and we will make a Promise. He can choose not to complete his chores, and we promise that he’ll lose privileges. He can choose to do his chores, and we promise that we’ll take him to the movies. Things like that- it really takes the pressure off of us and leaves it all up to him. When he makes the right choice, he appreciates the reward- and when he makes the wrong choice, the consequences are just as guaranteed. And we are committed to following through no matter what, so no more “I’ll ground you for life” or other unrealistic threats.
Anyone in a human relationship can benefit from what Celebrate Calm has to offer. Attached below is the newsletter than inspired this review, though I’ve long been inspired by Kirk over the past year of getting to know him and applying his principles in our lives. Many of us attended a recent seminar by Kirk- care to share your experience…? Thanks for being there for our classrooms and families Kirk, because~
Celebrate Calm Passes with Flying Colors! 
www.celebratecalm.com
Celebrate Calm Newsletter: Hygiene, Aggression, Anxiety, Morning Routine & More
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